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I look at eroticism, sexuality, consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and monogamy. I see and embrace their fluidity. How was it decided to focus on these parts of life? Primary drivers The reason is that relationships and sexuality are primary drivers of personal development (and are therefore “stressful”). They both tap into
This series on erotic and sexual “narratives” is designed to shed light on one way that people in committed relationships can understand, re-learn and continue to develop their desire, including for one another. Desire can recur with surprising consistency, if the partners’ levels of personal
Templates are like building blocks. They give people a way to understand and build personal and mutual narratives. Narratives can play out in various lengths of time, from minutes to years. They tend to make use of the same or similar templates over time. So in that way they can
The development of adult erotic narratives lets people form a foundation for an imaginative life together. Imagination and curiosity are at the heart of erotic desire, rather than its fringes. Understanding how narratives can express these things, and how they are built, offers a way of maintaining & developing desire
My relationship and couples clients know that I usually explore how they “agree”. As a description of therapy, ‘finding agreements’ may sound rudimentary or simplistic. It may be confused with mediation and negotiation. One party might think that finding agreement means somebody’s got to sell themselves out. I believe the
