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Quick notes on Eroticism & Sexuality in Quarantine

We can be fairly clear that there’s been for many a unique test of their erotic and sexual lives during the COVID-19 quarantine. The emphasis on “social distancing” was certainly chilling to the idea of seeking new sexual partners. (The alternative phrase, “safely relating”, never took off as a substitute.)

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Eroticism & sex in a time of…

What happens to eroticism and sex in a time of pandemic? Personally experiencing this vulnerability, in which health and life are at stake, doesn’t seem conducive to making love. The higher level of social, personal (indeed, existential) anxiety might temporarily but effectively suffocate the always delicate erotic spirit. A change

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Tension (Narratives, Part 8)

Before picking up on any of the many threads that might come from Narratives, Part 7, I think it’s best in this follow-up to go in the ‘opposite’ direction instead. That would be a focus on the single most important concept in adult erotic narrative formation, before tempting any others.

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Narratives, Part 5

Imagine you are going to co-author a story (or a book) about your relationship. Imagine it using tales of your successful commitments and accomplishments – but also the story of your desire for one another. Lesser among equals Though of equal importance to your relationship, desire does not compete well

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Narratives, Part 4

          This series on erotic and sexual “narratives” is designed to shed light on one way that people in committed relationships can understand, re-learn and continue to develop their desire, including for one another. Desire can recur with surprising consistency, if the partners’ levels of personal

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