I began building my approach to relational psychotherapy twenty-three years ago. The practice model I use with relationships integrates partner sexualities into treatment.
I support my clients’ goals. How they achieve those goals is largely about the choices they make outside of our time together.
Regardless of who I work with, I always use my understanding of the lifelong process of differentiation. It lies at the heart of personal development – having a self and fulfilling relationships with others. Evolving and maturing means in part developing immunity (self soothing) to anxiety.
At its core, it’s non-normative, ideal for working with kinky and non-monogamous clients.
I use a developmental perspective. It’s about how people, families and relationships take their shape over time. Seeing adults as constantly growing (especially in relationships) creates productive therapy far better than an emphasis on what’s wrong or pathologic.
Here are some influences on my work.