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By: Robert Odell, LISCW

Comparing and competing

A brief break from the Narratives series to cover an important point about growth in committed relationships. It’s about relationship regression. Erotic push Erotic narratives push personal growth. Pushing personal growth means that regressions or setbacks will occur. People who push forward often get anxious (and try to manage it).

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Narratives, Part 6

I’ve been mapping out how erotic templates build into erotic narratives in relationships for a long time. One way to start is looking at narratives connected to erotic arousal. Before reviewing some better known erotic narratives, it helps to ask: what makes any narrative tick? Tension An erotic narrative contains

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Narratives, Part 5

Imagine you are going to co-author a story (or a book) about your relationship. Imagine it using tales of your successful commitments and accomplishments – but also the story of your desire for one another. Lesser among equals Though of equal importance to your relationship, desire does not compete well

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Narratives, Part 4

          This series on erotic and sexual “narratives” is designed to shed light on one way that people in committed relationships can understand, re-learn and continue to develop their desire, including for one another. Desire can recur with surprising consistency, if the partners’ levels of personal

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Narratives, Part 3

Templates are like building blocks. They give people a way to understand and build personal and mutual narratives. Narratives can play out in various lengths of time, from minutes to years. They tend to make use of the same or similar templates over time. So in that way they can

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