Why Desire Is Fragile
Sexual Desire Sexual desire, arousal and lust are powerful and alluring, so why is desire fragile? Whether one believes one’s life to be erotically blessed and indulged, or deprived and wounded, it’s hard not to see that desire (and arousal) is still one of the most robust ways to feel ‘alive’ – or ‘dead.’ Also […]
Sex & Relationships: Slow Sex (OM)
I’m beginning to recommend Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone and Orgasmic Meditation (OM) as a suggested “active approach” for couples in search of new desire and arousal. Apart from the technique of OM, and the larger practice of Slow Sex, one of my favorite ideas from the book is that sex is an art, so we cannot […]
Desire Speaks
A Book On Desire The work of Katharine Angel, Unmastered: A Book on Desire Most Difficult To Tell, stands apart in its level of intimacy, vulnerability and courage. It sketches out an emotionally and physically aware psychology of heterosexual feminine desire, loosely but perceptively journaled in the context of an actual relationship. It begins with […]
Good Research On Sexuality
Research That Helps Therapy I’m slowly digesting the results of the third National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (“Natsal 3”) conducted in Britain. I note below two written passages from Natsal 3, and one bar chart that stood out for me. These findings connect to views of sexuality that I believe can support good therapy. […]
Love, Sex and Power in Relationships
I am looking forward to beginning this five session tele-seminar today with Esther Perel and Tammy Nelson. I can consult with them regarding specific clients, so if you are interested in my requesting consultation for you, please call or e-mail me ASAP. They bring different therapeutic orientations to the subject of sex. While I have long felt an affinity […]