Narratives, Part 1
The development of adult erotic narratives lets people form a foundation for an imaginative life together. Imagination and curiosity are at the heart of erotic desire, rather than its fringes. Understanding how narratives can express these things, and how they are built, offers a way of maintaining & developing desire over the course of a […]
A little over 18 months
18 Months Away It’s been a little over 18 months since my last post to this blog. I used the time to begin a long-term nonprofit development project (more on the project in a future post!). Serving relationships Over the 18 months, my practice has continued to serve diverse relationships, as well as individuals. About […]
What We Might Talk About: Therapeutic Dialogues
Therapeutic Dialogues The blog is also meant to give an ongoing picture about my practice, and the person leading it. Blogging about therapeutic dialogue(s) seems to fit that well. I Talk To Clients About… ….Wanting and Choosing Wanting is the verb of desire. Choosing is the act of commitment. Wanting v. Choosing, a tension to […]
Why Desire Is Fragile
Sexual Desire Sexual desire, arousal and lust are powerful and alluring, so why is desire fragile? Whether one believes one’s life to be erotically blessed and indulged, or deprived and wounded, it’s hard not to see that desire (and arousal) is still one of the most robust ways to feel ‘alive’ – or ‘dead.’ Also […]
BDSM Likely A Mainstream/Majority Practice
Is BDSM becoming a mainstream/majority practice? Thanks to Dr. Justin Lehmiller for his blog article, which supports the idea of a convergence or merger into a new hybrid of sexual behavior. (UPDATE: This landmark study is even stronger, clearer evidence to support the mainstreaming of kink, at least in the U.S. Vanilla-Kink We may want the clarity of bright […]