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Non-monogamous relationships have always been a part of civilized life. Yet non-monogamy has also evolved rapidly over the last 50 years. It’s entered mainstream relational & social life in many societies, within legal limits and cultural constraints.
By reshaping commitment, non-monogamy alters pair bonding. Desire, which precedes commitment (in Western & post-industrial cultures), cannot avoid making major adjustments to that change.
Yet non-monogamous people are most often raised in monogamy-oriented households, or within that dominant culture. Therefore, for many, managing the realities of non-monogamy can take years to grasp, much less practice ethically.
Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) emerged as a functional framework, using transparency and customized, modifiable agreements. They replace ‘cheating’: the covert outsourcing of sex and/or emotional fulfillment.
ENM is a personal development process – whether you begin adult relational life in this way, or transition to it. At its best, ENM steers people to develop a strong, clear sense of self.
ENM is a map for those who responsibly want and choose concurrent partners. It’s a framework based on honoring agreements which allow people to manage multiple emotionally significant relationships.