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Relationship and Couples Therapy

Learning From Sexuality

As a relationship and couples therapist, I am interested in what partners in different relational and sexual experiences are learning from their sexuality together. Monogamists, polyamorists, sexual traditionalists and kink practitioners are joined by a simple truth: we can recognize each other’s skills and learn from one another. In this

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Hypersexual Disorder

I believe that this proposed sexual disorder was in fact a value-laden attempt to pathologize and scapegoat a certain type of human sexuality. The Problem In addition to the lack of validating research, the problem that its backers could never work around was that if you have two or more

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Poly Couples Going Mainstream

Much has been published in the last 15 years about polyamory, – or the more familiar “poly”, in the public discourse. Fortunately, very early in my couples practice, I began to work with poly couples clients who had standing (and evolving) agreements about how (or whether )they would practice sexual,

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Some Thoughts On Agreements

My relationship and couples clients know that I usually explore how they “agree”.  As a description of therapy, ‘finding agreements’ may sound rudimentary or simplistic. It may be confused with mediation and negotiation.  One party might think that finding agreement means somebody’s got to sell themselves out. I believe the

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[Update] A Sexual Disorder ?

This is an update on a diagnosis once proposed for the about-to-be-released DSM-V,  “Hyper-Sexual Disorder”. It has been referred for further study. The American Psychiatric Association, publisher of the DSM-V, decided there was not enough supportive data to meet their standards. Lack Of Supporting Research My problem with the proposed diagnosis was

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