The new fluid bonding

One of the longer term effects of the COVID-19 pandemic will be the social re-arrangement of physical proximity and boundaries, and sex. And similar to a new fluid bonding, we must find ways to manage this safety. It’s at a new and very dangerously different level. The new fluid to be boundaried is exhaled aerosolized […]

Narratives, Part 5

Imagine you are going to co-author a story (or a book) about your relationship. Imagine it using tales of your successful commitments and accomplishments – but also the story of your desire for one another. Lesser among equals Though of equal importance to your relationship, desire does not compete well for time and energy. It […]

Narratives, Part 3

Templates are like building blocks. They give people a way to understand and build personal and mutual narratives. Narratives can play out in various lengths of time, from minutes to years. They tend to make use of the same or similar templates over time. So in that way they can become quite knowable. Examples A […]

Narratives, Part 2

How narratives are formed Erotic narratives are not necessarily in story form (beginning-middle-end, etc.) The erotic doesn’t come from a simple, linear, logical or sequential place. And it doesn’t necessarily take a fixed shape. To be continued… Starting with clues Mystery is a well-established part of the DNA of erotic arousal. And so therefore is […]

Narratives, Part 1

The development of adult erotic narratives lets people form a foundation for an imaginative life together. Imagination and curiosity are at the heart of erotic desire, rather than its fringes. Understanding how narratives can express these things, and how they are built, offers a way of maintaining & developing desire over the course of a […]